I have to admit that I’m becoming very frustrated as the sheer number of people who come to argue with me on my various social media outlets over homosexuality. A few years ago I would receive random private messages after commenting disfavorably on anti-gay Facebook pages, which I did here and there, and deal with the vitriolic homophobia most often under the guise of Christianity. This is, of course , not to imply that all Christians are homophobic, or even that all of their concerns about homosexuality are rooted in bigotry. I mean…have you actually read the Bible? Christianity is, like most if not all mainstream religions very steeped in patriarchal thinking and design. Of course they overflow with misogyny and homophobia, this is practically a given about most holy text, however, we do have freedom of religion here and it’s important that be respected in a sensible regard. But no, the responses that I would received both publicly and in private were generally ill mannered and absolutely disgusting. Not all Christians are like this, but, at it’s heart, Christianity does advance patriarchal ideas and homophobia is a part of that. The same can be said of queer theory and transgenderism, and much like those many Christians, Several trans activist express homophobia and misogyny blatantly.
The homophobia that permeates in queer circles is uniquely different in it’s tactics , and yet fundamentally the same in the sense of the implication that there is something wrong with homosexuals for not adhering to gender identity when considering potential romantic partners, for which examples can be seen all over this blog. Time and time I again I hear from the trans community that , homosexuality, at it’s core, is a form of bigotry because it excludes people. Lesbians are excluding trans women (who are biologically male.) and gay men are excluding Trans men (who are biologically female.). Paying attention to sex is “hurtful” and just “shouldn’t matter” because to these people, we are living in a time that you can close your eyes and try hard enough, you can “identify” into all sorts of things, and somehow that magically will just make it so. And as such trans men are men, trans women are women, in a blink of an eye it can be done. Forgive us homosexuals if we reject this premise. I understand that men who claim to be homosexual may be having sex with trans men, but “claim” would be the key word here. Gay men, sorry, you can’t go around having sexual intercourse with female bodied people and still claim that you are a homosexual. My whole point here is that words have meanings, and it’s not useful to gay people or lesbians to blur the line and call heterosexuality something it isn’t.
It’s not helpful to lesbians to say that lesbians desire and DO have sex with men:
What this line of thought does is erases the reality of homosexual men and women who have either by choice, fate, or any factor, partner exclusively with members of the same sex. Our life journey means something, the homosexual experience means something. We have always faced heterosexuals telling us that we have to be heterosexual, that lesbians should just “Try to find the right guy” or for gay men, “meet the right girl”. Queer people posit we can and should do this if said member of the opposite sex does that magic trick I talked about up above and just perceive themselves as a member of same sex.- and we are back at square one, heterosexual people labeling homosexuals derogatory words for simply being gay.
People can love and sleep with whomever they choose to, As I’m writing this I can see it being misinterpreted as saying “you can’t sleep with ______ because you’re trans.” That’s not what is being said. What is being said that the word “homosexual” means something. It means something to be gay or to be lesbian. Identifying as a homosexual is offensive when we both know there are other words that actually describe you. Bi, Pan, Queer, all of these effectively describe what you’re doing, just like homosexual/ homosexuality describes who we are and what we are doing.
Homophobia hits at gay people from many angles, and we, as homosexuals have a right to draw lines in the sand and we have a right to say “No” to any theory that is harmful to us, or dismissive of who we are. Both of Christian philosophy and queer theory support the erasure of gays and lesbians. We must realize though, that this time, it’s people who claim to be us.