After recent conversations with others and further analyzing some of the terms we use around trans issues, I have made a choice. That choice is to no longer use the moniker “Trans woman”. The behavior of these people is unforgivable and I’m sick of words being forced into my mouth to accommodate the feelings of abusive men hi-jacking and appropriating anything that strikes their fancy and then expecting the world to play along and for people not to get pissed off.
The gay movement, one that should center on sexual orientation, continues to prioritize men’s gender expression over the safety, sexuality and input from women, which is unacceptable. I am tired of a movement that I grew up admiring (perhaps naively.) turning it’s back on Lesbians and women. Lesbians and women who have spent a countless amount of time and energy giving to gay men, weather that be by the tireless avocation of safe sex practices for gay men, or speaking out in support of our sexuality, and what do we pay them in return? Allegiance to men who serve as a mockery of them? Allegiance to men who spend there time telling women that they are cis-scum for being born into their oppression? Who joke about rape, taunt, defile and attempt to defame women including leaders of the feminist movement- women who literally fought and paved the way…and we are standing idly by, as gay men, sitting on our hands patting (mostly) heterosexual men on the back for calling our lesbians sisters bigots for not accepting that their penis is a female organ, saying that they MUST romantically engage with them, for holding workshops like The Cotton Ceiling: http://factcheckme.wordpress.com/2012/03/13/the-cotton-ceiling-really/
This is completely unacceptable and I implore gay men to actually start doing something about it, even if that just means speaking up. Scream that this is wrong, scream that this is homophobic, because it is! We are tolerating homophobia because it’s not directed directly at us. There is a time to stand up and say No. That time is now.
By calling them “Trans women” we give them something that isn’t theirs, we give them “women”. This dropping of the crumb serves to fuel their argument with those “Aha gotcha!!” moments in which they will say “So you admit trans women are a type of women…” But I don’t. I don’t admit that “trans women” are a type of women. I admit that “trans women” are male. from here on out when I make reference to trans people, the phrasing will be “Men who claim to be women”, “Women who claim to be men”, “Men who claim to be Lesbians”, “Women who claim to be gay men.” Or, for short hand purposes M2T and F2T for general reference. It’s time to stop humoring delusions.