To Stop Dropping Crumbs

After recent conversations with others and further analyzing some of the terms we use around trans issues, I have made a choice. That choice is to no longer use the moniker “Trans woman”. The behavior of these people is unforgivable and I’m sick of words being forced into my mouth to accommodate the feelings of abusive men hi-jacking and appropriating  anything that strikes their fancy and then expecting the world to play along and for people not to get pissed off.
The gay movement, one that should center on sexual orientation, continues to prioritize men’s gender expression over the safety, sexuality and input from women, which is unacceptable. I am tired of a movement that I grew up admiring (perhaps naively.) turning it’s back on Lesbians and women. Lesbians and women who have spent a countless amount of time and energy giving to gay men, weather that be by the tireless avocation of safe sex practices for gay men, or speaking out in support of our sexuality, and what do we pay them in return? Allegiance to men who serve as a mockery of them? Allegiance to  men who spend there time telling women that they are cis-scum for being born into their oppression? Who joke about rape, taunt, defile and attempt to defame women including leaders of the feminist movement- women who literally fought and paved the way…and we are standing idly by, as gay men, sitting on our hands patting (mostly) heterosexual men on the back for calling our lesbians sisters bigots for not accepting that their penis is a female organ, saying that they MUST romantically engage with them, for holding workshops like The Cotton Ceiling: http://factcheckme.wordpress.com/2012/03/13/the-cotton-ceiling-really/
This is completely unacceptable and I implore gay men to actually start doing something about it, even if that just means speaking up.  Scream that this is wrong, scream that this is   homophobic, because it is! We are tolerating homophobia because it’s not directed directly at us. There is a time to stand up and say No. That time is now.
By calling them “Trans women”  we give them something that isn’t theirs, we give them “women”. This dropping of the crumb serves to fuel their argument with those “Aha gotcha!!” moments  in which they will say “So you admit trans women are a type of women…” But I don’t. I don’t admit that “trans women” are a type of women. I admit that “trans women” are male. from here on out when I make reference to trans people, the phrasing  will be “Men who claim to be women”, “Women who claim to be men”, “Men who claim to be Lesbians”, “Women who claim to be gay men.”  Or, for short hand purposes M2T and F2T for general reference. It’s time to stop humoring delusions.

 

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3 thoughts on “To Stop Dropping Crumbs

  1. I think FtT should get more than that considering so many of them are just trying to escape their oppression. I will call them transguys, since “you guys” is a gender neutral term. The trannies in ladyface don’t get shit from me though, unless I’m doing it in person in order to not get shanked.

    • You’re right that there is a very different dynamic in the case of women transitioning out of their oppression. Plus they don’t harass in the ways M2T’s do. “Transguys” is something I wouldn’t mind, because as you stated it is used quite neutrally very often.

  2. “I admit that “trans women” are male. from here on out when I make reference to trans people, the phrasing will be “Men who claim to be women”, “Women who claim to be men”, “Men who claim to be Lesbians”, “Women who claim to be gay men.” Or, for short hand purposes M2T and F2T for general reference. It’s time to stop humoring delusions.”

    Thank you, thank you, thank you….

    Lesbians will never forgive transgender activists for their lesbian phobic and misogynistic “Overcoming the Cotton Ceiling: Breaking Down Sexual Barriers for Queer Transwomen”. This is raw homophobia coming from males.

    A trans porn star conjures up a special trans friendly theory as to why lesbians don’t like penis, specifically penis on delusional males who think they are women. To sound progressively cool and trendy, he throws out words like “intersectionality”, cis this, cis that, t”ransmisogyny” whatever the heck this is.

    “The cotton ceiling is a theory proposed by trans porn star and activist Drew DeVeaux to explain the experiences queer trans women have with simultaneous social inclusion and sexual exclusion within the broader queer women’s communities. Basically, it means that cis queer women will be friends with us and talk day and night about trans rights and ending transmisogyny, but will still not consider us viable sexual partners.”

    He goes on to shamelessly appropriate second wave feminism by suggesting that his “cotton ceiling” (lesbians don’t want penis even if the male is wearing a skirt) is far more important than women gaining access to managerial jobs (“glass ceiling”).

    “The term cotton ceiling is a reference to the “glass ceiling” that second wave feminist identified in the workforce, wherein women could only advance so high in the workforce but could not break through into positions of power and authority. The cotton represents underwear, signifying sex.”

    The rapey sounding title is “”Overcoming the Cotton Ceiling: Breaking Down Sexual Barriers for Queer Transwomen”.

    His penis and testicles are “womanly”, and lesbians need to get with the program or face being branded transphobic bigots.

    From: [redacted lesbian]
    Sent: March-12-12 1:59 PM
    To: [redacted trans]
    Subject: Re: What’s the cotton ceiling?
    Thanks. So, just to make sure I understand this, a trans woman with a penis, and who has no desire to have a sex change, is not male bodied – correct?

    On Mon, Mar 12, 2012 at 2:02 PM, [redacted trans] wrote:
    There is nothing inherently male about a woman’s body, unless she identified things about it as male herself. So, no, I do not consider trans women with penises to be male-bodied, unless that is how they identify.

    From: [redacted lesbian]
    Sent: March-12-12 2:04 PM
    To: [redacted trans]
    Subject: Re: What’s the cotton ceiling?
    This is seriously problematic for lesbians. What you are saying is lesbians – who desire sex with females – are somehow bigoted for that desire, no? That’s exactly what nontrans males say to us.
    Anyway, take care, [redacted lesbian]

    From: [redacted lesbian]
    Sent: March-12-12 2:21 PM
    To: [redacted trans]
    Subject: Re: What’s the cotton ceiling?
    I don’t want to put words in your mouth. I want to understand what you are saying. Trans women may be women, but they are not female. A penis is not a female organ.

    “What trans women are saying is that we are women, and thus should be considered women sexually, and thus be considered viable partners for women who are attracted to women. What cis males are saying is that queer women shouldn’t be exclusively attracted to women, which is completely different. ”

    It’s not completely different to lesbians, and it’s not completely different at all. Lesbians are sexually attracted to females. This does not include trans women with penises.

    What you say makes sense *only* if you believe the fiction that people with penises are *female.* Correct?

    On Mon, Mar 12, 2012 at 2:23 PM, [redacted trans] wrote:
    Trans women’s bodies are female bodies, whether or not we have penises.

    And I’m done engaging in this conversation. You are clearly attempting to bait me in order to find some way of slandering me and my work online, and, frankly, I have better things to do with my time.

    On Mon, Mar 12, 2012 at 2:27 PM, [redacted lesbian] wrote:
    I am not trying to bait you. I was trying to get you to make this statement: Trans women’s bodies are female bodies, whether or not we have penises.
    That’s bullshit. And that bullshit means lesbians are expected to be sexually accessible to trans women with penises or face being labeled a bigot.

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